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# Shadow Work and Power: A Personal Story

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Personal Check In:

I went to see The Little Mermaid this weekend, and Y'ALL. I didn't expect to cry multiple times. Seeing it in 4D was an experience - I might be too old for a Universal Studios situation in a 2 hour movie. 😂 Inner child work was gorgeous - we dressed up and let our little Black girls fly.

In this week's vlog, I share:

1. A personal story about my shadow work related to power, and how it showed up during my time as a non-profit Executive Director.
2. Ways this shadow work connects to the [**Soil, Shadow and Spirit Retreat Series**](https://soilandshadow.com/bipoc-leaders) for Black mama leaders (**Apply**! Forward to good folks!), and inquiries about how Black folk experience the nexus of power + trauma.
3. How you can work with me through [**Executive Coaching**](https://soilandshadow.com/executive-coaching) to integrate your shadow even if you're not a Black mama leader.

How's your shadow showing up right now? Reply and let me know?

 

[Executive Coaching](https://soilandshadow.com/soil-and-shadow-blog/tag/executive-coaching), [Shadow Work](https://soilandshadow.com/soil-and-shadow-blog/tag/shadow-work), [Soil, Shadow and Spirit Retreat Series](https://soilandshadow.com/soil-and-shadow-blog/tag/soil-shadow-and-spirit-retreat-series)

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