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# 3 Questions to Help You Integrate Feedback

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Today's vlog offers three questions to support you with integrating feedback. I had a sick child and Spring conference season hit, and I never finished the giving, receiving and feedback integrating cycle we started a few weeks ago. To catch up, you can download the feedback infographic [here](https://soilandshadow.com/hubfs/Official%20PDF%20Feedback%20Stages%20of%20Competency%20%C2%A92023%20Soil%20and%20Shadow%20-1.pdf).

Integrating feedback is important so you don't feel like this:

![Im always open to feedback I can ignore meme](https://soilandshadow.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Im%20always%20open%20to%20feedback%20I%20can%20ignore%20meme.jpeg?width=239&height=239&name=Im%20always%20open%20to%20feedback%20I%20can%20ignore%20meme.jpeg)

When you've received feedback, and you're contemplating how to work with it, consider the following:

1. How many times have you heard this feedback? If it's repetitive, that's a sign it should be taken seriously.
2. How irritated/angry/ashamed do you feel upon receiving the feedback? A strong emotional response indicates particularly helpful feedback ;).
3. What would change for you and others if you shifted your words and actions according to the feedback?

In the vlog, I offer a personal example of this process and explain the questions in more detail. I'd love to hear if it's helpful and if it supports you with moving along the [**stages of competency for integrating feedback**.](https://soilandshadow.com/hubfs/Official%20PDF%20Feedback%20Stages%20of%20Competency%20%C2%A92023%20Soil%20and%20Shadow%20-1.pdf)

 

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